Re: Homesick - with a sting in the tail !
Rodger Morris (rlm@SUNED1.NSWSES.NAVY.MIL)
Wed, 10 Aug 1994 10:09:12 PDT
> I agree totally with your approach in dealing with the scouts who felt
>that the scout whose dad was dying. I feel that they have every right to
> You didn't address the issue of the boy and his feelings. At a point like
>this, it is important that someone counsel the boy concerning this feelings.
>An adult, probably yourself needs to show support for the boy. I don't think
>that I would let him know that I already know, but just that I noticed that
>something was bothering him. Then let him "spill his gut". Let him do all
>the talking. He will appreciate the listening hear for the rest of his life.
In my case, it was a Scout whose grandmother was dying of cancer.
The question posed was what to say to the junior leaders who thought the boy
was not carrying his fair share of the load. I addressed only that issue in
In the event, I was not constrained from talking with my Scout by any
request of the parents. I spoke with him. He was ashamed to be crying. I
shared with him that my father had passed away two years before, and that I
still cried occasionally, and that crying was a part of the healing process.
I went over with him the disbelief, plea bargaining, self blame,
outward-directed anger and acceptance stages of dealing with a major loss.
My Scout's family subsequently moved to a community about 20 miles away. My
Scout insisted that he be allowed to remain in my Troop. He is currently our
Senior Patrol Leader.
Yours in Scouting,
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City