Re: Hi, I'm new!
Settummanque, the blackeagle (waltoml@WKUVX1.WKU.EDU)
Wed, 20 Jul 1994 00:20:36 CST
Gibbons-CIC-IS <Gibbons-CIC-IS@MICMAC.REDSTONE.ARMY.MIL> writes:
>I'm Tammy Gibbons a Bear leader in Huntsville, Alabama. Although I still feel
>fairly new to scouting, I was a wolf leader last year. I fell for the old
>"it's only an hour a week" line and here I am. I really have made some
>wonderful friends in scouting and my son Ben and I have had the opportunity to
>spend some wonderful times together.
Hi Tammy! Welcome to the list! I think that all of us have fell for
that "one hour a week" or "one meeting a month" line at least once,
and once we've fell for it, we realize that it's not the time but
what we do with that time. I'm glad you and Ben got much from your
first year as a Wolf Den Leader.
My "honies" also "endured" her first year as a Den Leader, and while
she loved the interaction and doing the meetings, she didn't get any
support whatsoever from the Pack she was a part of. The Pack
basically fell apart on her and the boys and nobody cared about it!
>I feel like we have done some good things as a Den (community service projects,
>crafts, scout-a-rama) however there are many times that as a single mother
>(divorced), that I feel inadequate to take on some projects. My long suit is
>crafts, but I don't know a screwdriver from a wrench! Do any of you have
>suggestions for how I can get the boys involved in more "manly" things without
>great anxiety on my part?
That's the same thing that Jessiann said when she looked at some of
the projects that Wolves and Bears do. "I'm NOT a man, so I don't know
about any of this stuff!", she would say. I remind her, like I'm
reminding you and other female Den Leaders, that in the earlier days
of Cub Scouting, females were the ONLY people allowed to be "Den
Mothers" of Wolf, Bear and (back then) Lion Cub Scouts...and many of
those SAME projects were in those books and they did them with the
boys back then too.
And remember, Tammy, when women *didn't* do anything with a
screwdriver? Or a handsaw?
The key is "knowing your resources", Tammy. Nearly every Den has at
least one father or mother that is handy with the handsaw and hammer
and nails and wouldn't mind coming in and helping her/his son and the
other Den members in completing the achievement. You probably know
someone that also may want to come to one or two meetings to do this
as well. The point is that they come to one or two meetings and
you're NOT recruiting for additional adult leaders. You want to
emphasize that they are "resource folks" for whatever it is that they
The Den gets another adult to interact with, they also realize that
you like them, don't know or need to know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING.
Finally, don't forget to thank those folks for coming. A simple
handwritten letter (or a homemade meal or a trip to Fazoli's) goes a
long way moreso than the nicest of those BSA certificates!
Stick around here, Tammy. This is a GREAT place to be!
Settummanque, the blackeagle... (MAJ) Mike L. Walton (
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