Re: failed initiation
David Weintraub (dhw@HPTELE24.TELERATE.COM)
Thu, 14 Jul 1994 10:08:37 -0500
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> The boy who reported the plans to me did so in front of another older
> boy he thought he could trust. This other boy told the planners that
> they had been betrayed. I was intending to bring the subject up
> without indicating that I knew anything was going on, but because of
> this other boy, everyone knew what was happening.
This is pretty ironic. I bet they are bashing the first kid because
he's a tattler, but look at this older kid! The first kid "tattled"
because he felt that something was morally wrong about this. It took
courage to do something like this! The second, older, kid tattled to
his friends about what the first kid did. Not only did he betray a
trust, but he volunteered to be a stool pigeon! There was no moral
dilemma for him.
I would have a good talking (in private, of course) to the second kid.
I would point out that he broke a trust when he tattled to his friends
and that he is the real tattle tail. Let him know that the first kid
was trying to prevent someone from getting hurt when he talked to you,
but when he, the second kid tattled, he was purposely trying to get
Of course, I would also talk to the whole group I would explain how
disappointed I am with their action and how they have betrayed the Boy
Scout Oath. I would also explain that hazing is a form of torture and
will not be tolerated.
Of course, you should also talk with the kid who reported the hazing to
you. This kid needs reassurance that what he did was right, and that
what he did was a act of bravery.
I would think that the parents should be told of the incident, but I am
afraid that many would probably take the same position as their kids!
Unfortunately, this was the reaction parents had when I revealed to them
that their kids took place in a hazing incident. (It's a tradition.
Everyone does it. No one got really hurt...).
David Weintraub | Opinions expressed are mine and not Telerate's
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