Re: Homesick scouts
Richard May (rpm@SYS.UEA.AC.UK)
Wed, 13 Jul 1994 11:03:58 +0100
>I guess that my point is that homesickness seems to be a
>ruse. I've learned that it is usually something else, and
>homesickness is what they prefer to call it. I'd recommend
>digging a little deeper to find out what the real cause is.
>Then, deal with it.
I have suffered greatly from homesickness in the past, and only really got
over it when I had been away at University for several weeks. When I was a
Scout I suffered very badly, so I have a personal understanding of the problem.
I accept that some cases may just be as described above, but it is important
for Leaders to realise that homesickness is often a real problem, not a
ruse. However it is quite possible that the case will appear to be as
described above. This is due to the fact that homesickness makes a person
more sensitive to other worries, so it may appear that they are in fact
being upset by another matter, not the homesickness. In my case I was
frequentyly getting *very* upset about items of my property that I had lost,
when in reality they were merely mislaid within the tent. However due to the
effects of my homesickness I believed that they were lost for good, or that
someone had stolen them, and became extremely upset.
The solutions to the problem are not easy, but trying to pass the problem
off to something other than homesickness will not help at all in a 'genuine'
case. I always find that it helps the young person if they know that you
understand the problem, which is easy in my case! It is also very helpful
for the senior members of the tent in question to understand the problem so
that they understamnd that this person may get upset by the most minor of
Phoneing home or discussing home with the leader can ofen make the situation
worse rather than better, and ignoring the fact that there is a problem is
not helpful. In my experience the best solution is to discuss the problem
briefly and then steer the conversation away to another topic - any other
topic so long as it takes the person's mind aweay from home.
This posting does not fully cover all that I could say of my experiences,
however I hope that it gives you an idea. If anyone has further questions
then you are welcome to contact me by email.
Yours in Scouting,
Richard May, ACSL 19th Norwich (firstname.lastname@example.org)
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