Re: Opinion on Bad Boy Scout
hilding holroyd (blustone!chagall!hilding@UUNET.UU.NET)
Thu, 12 May 1994 08:39:44 EDT
> I have been advised by a SMA that one of my Scouts was caught stealing from
> another Scout. This did not occur during Scouting. Rather, he broke in a
> and stole the property, but was later caught with the property on his person.
> The boy admits he did wrong. He has demonstrated other behavior problems in
> the past.
> The SMAs want him out of the Troop. They are concerned about trust as well as
> the concerns of other parents.
> I suggested keeping him, but allowing him to meetings only for the next few
> months. We can observe his behavior and evaluate future involvement, but at
> least keep the tie in hopes of his behavior improving in the future.
> Any comments from the net?
First of all, who says this young man is a "Bad Boy Scout"? He may have troubles
and problems but that does not make him a bad Boy Scout.
I would talk to him, one on one [be sure there are others nearby so that you
do not violate Youth Protection guidelines]. You could go to his home and
talk to him there, too. Find out what HE wants to do regarding the Scout Troop.
He might want to stay in, I know the program could do a lot for him.
Give him a chance. What he did was outside of Scouts, let his "punishment" be
outside of Scouts too.
I had one situation at my first summer at camp as the "SM" (read that as leader
in charge). One boy was caught stealing from the Trading Post. The camp director
brought him back to the campsite to talk to me about it. No one from the troop
knew about it (except 1 other leader). He apologized. He said it would not
again. My response was that I would take him at his word and that I would not
tell his parents, or anyone else, about it. But if he did it again, I would send
him home and tell his parents everything. It did not happen again. He was also
surprised 3 years later when I told him that I had kept my side of the bargain.
Sometimes, Scouts need to see that they are trusted no matter what they have
in or out of Scouting. It can turn them around from destructive behavior. Do sit
down with the Scout and talk out some ground rules. Talk to his parents,
and discuss what you and the Scout had decided. I would NOT boot him out.
Hilding W. Holroyd Jersey Shore Council
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