Re: Scouts and grief
Lew Bowling (LBOWLING@UKCC.UKY.EDU)
Fri, 1 Apr 1994 09:39:04 EST
About a year and a half ago my father died suddenly while my son and I were
on a campout with the troop. My wife had to run me down through the park
ranger and the Scoutmaster had to deliver the bad news. I was upset and my
son was devestated, he and my father were very close. The other adult leaders
and the boys were all very supportive, both at this time and in the weeks
following, and we appreciated it immensely. Since my father had lived some
distance away they were unable to attend the funeral, but their continued
support was very helpful. I would never suggest avoiding or acting as if
something like this hadn't happened. In addition to the value of letting the
boy know he has friends that are concerned and sympathetic, it's a valuable
lesson for the other scouts. Death is a part of life and it's better to learn
to deal with it and try to understand it than to try to ignore it.
As to the related topic of the "Dad and Lad" activity, we have enough cases of
mother-only families or problem divorces that we now call them "Scout-Parent"
activities. We haven't had a mom on a campout yet, but I expect it will
happen very soon.
Lew Bowling, ASM
T-21, Lex., KY
Kawida Lodge #480
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City