Re: My way of adressing this interesting challenge
Beth Allerton (BETHPET@NERVM.NERDC.UFL.EDU)
Fri, 25 Feb 1994 08:40:58 EST
Oh, dear. I knew sooner or later I would have to butt in. Mike, I
almost always cheer your responses, but in this case I only want to
toss dirty diapers at y'all.
You are discussing a young man about to be a father for the first time/
or is a new one already. You are encouraging him to devote time away
from his new family. He is "not getting along well" with his bride -
well, if he runs back to Scouts when faced with RESPONSIBILITY, I for
one would not get along well with HIM.
Scouting is fine, it is a good way of helping boys/young men. BUT let's
keep in mind what he will be doing: Spending alot of time on Scouting.
Can he afford to do that? What does his wife think? If she objects,
are her objections rational?
What are the living arrangements? Will the newlyweds be living with
a parent ready to help out with the baby, allowing the boy time for
his extracurricular activities? (yes, folks, I mean Scouting). I know
how bad single parenting is- especially with a newborn. Even if it is
just a new marriage, he should work on that. Eagle is a great goal, and
can help, but going for it takes time and commitment, both of which
he doesn't seem to have extra loads of. Look at the BIG PICTURE here
And really, expect a new mom to join an explorer post? Ha! How many
full nights of sleep did you get? (or maybe you GUYS did.... :) )
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