Peter Van Houten (peterva@QM.WV.TEK.COM)
Fri, 4 Feb 1994 10:34:08 -0800
Well my friends, I am also faced with an interesting situation which I would
solicit your advice on. (This must be the month for problems to crop up.)
I have a Den Leader, who when his older son was coming up through the ranks
was by far one of the best den leaders I've met. His older son is now in Boy
He has a younger son and he feels obligated to do the same for him that he
did for his older son, be his den leader. So he offered to be the Wolf Den
leader back in September. I was elated, knowing he'd still be an active
member of the pack leadership, but I was worried he may be burnt out. I
talked with him about this earlier and he brushed it off.
Well, all is not well, as I've started receiving calls from parents asking
what I'm going to do about their den. Gist of the matter is that the den
leader refuses help from his assistant, but is rarely at the den meetings due
to business. I talked with him and he basically told me to stay out of the
affairs of HIS den. I can remove him as Den Leader, but I know he'll remove
his son (who by the way loves Cub Scouts, and is at every meeting regardless
of his dad being there).
Please don't read into this more than there is. The father is a great guy,
but bottom line is that I think he is burnt-out on scouting and wants out,
but can't do it without losing face with his son. Unlike other packs that
may be faced with this situation, I have parents in reserve that can step in
and be the den leaders (parents that are trained).
How can I work this so it's a WIN-WIN situation, he saves face, the den
survives and everyone walks away better because of it.
As always, in scouting . . .
Peter Van Houten
Cubmaster Pack 383
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