Eagles / pushy parents ?
Steve Souza (76703.633@COMPUSERVE.COM)
Wed, 2 Feb 1994 02:01:40 EST
quoted From: Gregory Benesh BENESHG%BAYLOR.BITNET@RICEVM1.RICE.EDU
> The head of our sponsoring organization recommends that parents not allow
> their Scout sons to drive until they have earned their Eagle! I really
Greg, sorry to hear that you don't approve of the incentive suggested by
your Chartered Partner. I on the other hand think the saying among parents
here of, "No 'wings', No wheels.!"... is a great motivator for the boys.
> I think that it's important for the Scout to know that the Eagle was his
> accomplishment. If the parents force him through it, he can never be sure
> how much was his doing, and how much was theirs.
I agree completely. OTOH I don't think a parent who encourages their son to
get those last 3 merit badges done, or 'talk to your project counselor',
etc. is "forcing" the Scout.
Remember, driving is NOT a 'right', and youth who is under 18 needs a
parents permission to drive. A Scout getting his Eagle is a good indicator
of his responsibility and many parents use this to help them decide when a
boy is ready to accept the responsibilities of driving.
> Pushy parents need to back off as the Scout approaches Eagle, not turn the
screws. Encouragement and help should be given, but the Scouts don't need to
be hit with a big stick.
Again I agree. Who gets to define "pushy" though? In the case of MY son (4
MBs and a project away from Eagle <g>) I only provide a minimal drive, lots
of encouragement, and an occasional reminder for him to work on his Eagle...
The other adults in his Scouting life are another story however <g>.
He's an OA Lodge officer, a Troop JASM, a Post Pres, an OA Section Rep, on
several Council Committees (youth rep to Council Camping Comm., etc.), AND
working on a girlfriend... all while completing his EAgle and learning to
His Advisor in the Lodge has a dinner bet with him that he won't make Eagle
by 1 April, the Lodge Advisor (who is also the Post Advisor) has been
reminding him to complete the MBs, the Camping Committee Chair has been
bugging him every time we have an OA Ordeal about getting things done...
I don't HAVE to be 'pushy' <g>... everyone else is doing it for me, and I'm
not the "bad guy".
> Is this a common problem?
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