Re: Problem with another leader.
Larry Heidkamp (heidkamp@CLAUDE.MA30.BULL.COM)
Tue, 26 Oct 1993 16:01:15 EDT
I just saw your latest post about the fund-raiser crafts and the Craftsman
Activity Pin. You seem to be beating your head against a brick wall. You
might be better off if you can move to a different pack. No one can say
you haven't tried your best in your current situation. If you can't move,
I'd suggest a short breather before you call the cubmaster (i.e. call
tomorrow night rather than tonight) to allow you to cool off some more.
Talk to someone objective who has an interest in scouting if you can (not
a parent of one of the boys in either of the Dens, possibly a former Den Leader)
Talk in person, not via the net. The net is a series of one-sided
exchanges, its great for information, bad at emotions. You have lots of
emotions right now that need to be worked through. If you call the Cubmaster
now you might end up in a screaming match that will make it more difficult
to correct the problems later on and may just decide to give up on
Scouting all together.
After you cool off and you've had a chance to talk, see where you stand. Who
are your allies (DE, Unit Commisioner, the pack
committee?). Who are your 'adversaries' (other Den Leader, Cubmaster,
pack committee). Talk through some of the possible plans. Assess your
chances of success. Decide what if anything you should do.
Remember Scouting is supposed to be fun most of the time. You aren't having
It's easy for me to write this from my quite office, I'm not in the middle
of the situation. But I have been involved in several very emotional and
heated situations over the past 7 years as a scout leader. I know your
situation is not easy.
SM Troop 25
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