Re: Problem with another leader.
My Name (crenn@HPMPEA2.CUP.HP.COM)
Mon, 25 Oct 1993 13:31:59 PDT
>Subject: Problem with another leader.
>Evelyn Haller SI Libraries
Chill! (Does that sound like a WEBELOS?)
Seriously, you sound a lot like my wife. She wants
the best program possible for our boys, and she wants everyone
to like her. It don't hav ta be that way!
First, take training, if you haven't already. That will
increase your confidence in your decisions. It will also load
you with ideas and proven strategies-- both important in the
Next, meet with your Cub Master and declare your "owner-
ship" of your den. I don't mean this to be a negative meeting.
In fact, it shouldn't be. You need empowerment. Empower your-
self by declaring your intention to present the best possible
program to your boys, in spite of obstacles (even well-intentioned
obstacles.) Be open to opportunities for leveraging through
cooperation (ie. field trips, campouts, etc.), but don't limit
your own options by forcing every activity to be a joint venture.
Now, do what you said. Plan your meetings, maybe even
share your plan with the other den leader, be open to cooperative
efforts, but don't wait for them. And, don't waste energy trying
to mend this fence. It sounds like you've done what you can.
Focus on damage control and wait for this person to heal a little
or grow up or whatever. You can't fix them, but you can live the
example of the scout oath for your boys. Just do it!
Let us know what happens,
COR, ADC, AWL, TCM, PCM, SCCC -- Say What?
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City