(no name) ((no email))
Fri, 27 Nov 1992 10:35:20 CST
Thanks for the offer of coffee.....if I was there in Europe, I would surely
come join you all for some Scouting brotherhood and spirit as well as the
superior sights of Kandersteg!
To those of you on the list...and your families, the following short (yes,
short!!) message for this Thanksgiving Season.
Over the past two days, I have been able to see families come together. When
I took my children to Jessica Ryan mother's home in central Kentucky, I was
treated to a lot of light joking, serious discussions on what I would do with
my children over the Christmas holidays, and her friends and the friends of her
niece made it a grand reunion for a woman truly homesick for her family. The
next day, after sitting in the living room with all three kids, watching the
Macy's parade, we all went to see my parents, my brothers, and many relatives
that I have not seen in, well, let's say that the last time I have seen many
of them, I was still deciding what I wanted to do with my life after high
school. There was a warmth there that could not be described without the risk
of sounding like some fragrance commercial. We returned tired, a little angry
because our point of view did not prevail, and relieved that we did this all
before my great grandmother passed onward.
Last night, as I watched my children slowly close their eyes (the youngest
was already at the eye-closing point), I told them something I wanted to share
with all of you, in light of everything we have discussed this past year.
I am glad that you got to see your relatives, your grandmother and your
great-grandmother--my "big Mom". I a so very glad that you got to see some
of your many relatives. I am not so glad that your got to hear us discuss
things that you may not understand or liked. It is important that we talk about
those things, and while they may not have wanted you to hear them, I felt
that perhaps you should. We all differ in how we feel about things. We all
don't understand sometimes why things happen, as I am sure that many of my--
and your--relatives are trying to understand. But just because we don't agree
on everything don't mean that we don't care about you...or that we don't love
you. We do. That's why we are so loud sometimes when we talk. Or why we cry
about things. Please remember that we care so much about you that we are
risking losing friends over you. True friendship, and love, guys, come from
being able to say how you feel about something...and to listen to how others
feel about things...and to be able to hug, understand, and move on from it.
Just like when you get into fights with your best friend at school.
Here's hoping that your Thanksgiving was one of renewing old friendships, of
seeing and being with people important to you, and of sharing things painful as
well as funny with those whom truly care about you. Here's hoping that
you meet new additions to your families and friends, that you have had enough
........and somewhere in there, that we all remember that there are those that
don't have the friendships, nor the sharing, nor the food. May we as Scouters
and those interested in youth find the spirit to share with our youth the
true importance of this traditional, uniquely American holiday period.
(off to feed my children...they're awake!)
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City