Re: Junior Girl Scouts
Don Izard (mwilson@POLARIS.ORL.MMC.COM)
Wed, 7 Oct 1992 11:59:25 EDT
> From: DIXONJ%FIRNVX.BITNET@ricevm1.rice.edu
> At the end of this week's meeting, I discovered that one of my new girl
> scouts was practically in tears. Turns out when she went to sit at one of
> the tables to work on the puzzle we were doing for opening activity, the
> girls there told her to go to another table! (wish I'd known about this
> when it happened!!).
It is hard to convince kids, even my son, that there is little that we as
leaders can do to correct situations when we learn about them after the
meeting or the next day.
> The girls (2-3 of them) are rude, ill-mannered,
> disrespectful, and generally disruptive. I explained our "rules of
> conduct" at the first meeting.
Who invented the rules? It is best when the troop (den for Cub leaders)
sets down the rules themselves. A good "rule" is phrased in a positive way.
There shouldn't be too many rules. Have the girls also determine the
consequences of breaking the rules (be careful on this point, kids can be
cruel). I'm not saying you didn't do it this way. I just put this in as a
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Cub leaders are taught to use the conduct candle. A candle is lit at the
beginning of the meeting. When the candle burns down, the group gets a
special treat. When someone cuts up, the candle is blown out. It won't
take too long before the group learns that cut ups delay the special treat
and bring some peer pressure to bear.
My sister, the school teacher, suggested a contract. That would be similar
to your letter idea.
One of the tools from the Scoutmaster Handbook (I don't remember which edition)
is to look the offender in the eye, and say something like "we will wait until
Johnny finishes talking since what he is saying is so much more important."
One variation is to walk up and put your arm on his/her shoulders to draw
extra attention to the person cutting up. Either way you are removing
anoniminity (sp?) from the cut up.
You may also consider telling the repeat offenders that they will be welcomed
to the next meeting only if they bring a parent with them. I don't know if I
would use this approach, but others have told me it works. I have called a
parent to come get their son from a campout because of a behavior problem.
The bottom line is that you must place the welfare of the entire troop above
the feelings of one or two troublemakers.
SM, Troop 565, Deltona, FL
CC, Pack 565, Deltona, FL
Future GS Leader when she gets old enough.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City