Re: Re- Sexual Preference a
Gina Gestautas (GINA@NUACVM.BITNET)
Mon, 16 Sep 1991 10:22:16 CDT
I think that many of us are at a loss as to what to do whether GAY or
STRAIGHT. I know many people that are very concerned about their
own interaction with children, worried that ANY attempt at counseling
or one on one contact can be misconstrued as an overture by the child
or another adult. Personal assets at stake if they make the wrong decision.
I do NOT believe that GAYNESS and ABUSE are synonimous, I do believe
that ALL adults need to be concerned about their image and actions
WITHIN scouting. BSA stresses that even straight couples should camp
in different tents, removing that sexual element from a situation where
it is inappropriate and irrelevant.
I personally know MANY openly gay people that I believe to be people
of good character, but if I allowed them to work with my kids,
just like straight people, I would ask them to keep their private lives
to themselves. That is keep it PRIVATE. I think we ALL have trouble
enough trying to teach children how to be responsible adults without
adding alot of confusing and maybe "irresponsible" behavior by the
adult leaders. As you probably know already, the kids are usually the
FIRST to know of any improprieties, by ADULTS or CHILDREN. Many adult
leaders have reeled in horror when discovering that perhaps some of
their youth are using drugs, etc. On most of these times, if the adult
leadership had had good communication with the youth members, they
could have stopped this MUCH earlier, since many knew but would not tell
for fear of getting a "friend" in trouble. I think that just like all
things, HOSTILITY and ANGER are no excuses for a lack of trained leadership
and program. These two things I believe are what makes responsible adults
and citizens, not negative personal attacks or militant tactics.
One point that I have seen no one (I think) bring up is that the San Francisco
board made its decision at a time when BSA announced that gays, girls,
etc. would be accepted. The Learning for Life program was created last
January to meet alot of the special needs of In School scouting and other
associated programs. They worked with other youth oriented groups in order
to come up with a program that could be flexible enough for the majority
of these needs. San Francisco chose the wrong time to pull out, since BSA
had already responded. I hope that they will now reconsider their decision.
Thanks for listening to my thoughts, I hope that you realize that above all
we ALL care about the kids in scouting and that is why we are trying to
discuss this on the list. Thanks again.
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City