Re: Rotten Apples ? !!
Ches Martin (CHES@CLEMSON.BITNET)
Thu, 4 Apr 1991 13:34:00 EST
There comes a time in situations like these that we the leaders must
ask ourselves, "Is our service to one boy hurting the service we
provide to the others in our program?" On a couple of occasions, I
have had to have the "Last Chance" Scoutmaster conference with a boy
and generally his parents. Most of the time, in my case, this has
caused a rude awakening with the boy. Only one boy, that I remember,
actually starting doing better after this conference. Two others
decided that they could not live up to the expectations required in
our troop. The expectations are simple to understand and many live by
them daily - the Scout Oath and Law.
The conferences that I have in situations like this are not shouting
matches (if they turn into that, I end them), but are very straight
forward and to the point: "Your behavior/performance is hurting the
troop and will not be tolerated, you have three options - change,
get out of the program, or face the troop committee." Once a Scout
gets to this point, he is not offered the opportunity for retribution
without a promise of corrected behavior. If this promise is broken,
"THAT'S IT BUDDY!!"
I know this response sounds harsh, but my unit commissioner told me
this week of a troop in town where 4 boys had quit because of the
actions of another scout in the troop. I heard the adage said
differently the other day, "It's not that Scouting isn't for everyone,
it's that everyone isn't for Scouting."
Don, if I were in your shoes, I would be analyzing exactly how this
boy's actions are impacting the troop. If you need to, hold a "Last
Chance" conference. It will more than likely be worse dealing with the
parents than the boy, but dealing with them may be better than dealing
with what's to come.
Scoutmaster - Troop 84
Anderson, South Carolina
Blue Ridge Council
Eagle Scout - 1981
Vigil OA member in Atta Kulla Kulla lodge - 1983
Feild Sports Director - 1985, 86 - Camp Old Indian
National Jamboree - 1981 as a boy, 1985 as an ASM
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City