Re: Parents who push too much
Douglas J. Coffman (LEFTY@MTUS5.BITNET)
Tue, 30 Oct 1990 09:52:23 EST
I think one important item to remember is that Scouting as one of
it's aims teaches self-motivation and reward for personal
accomplishment. By using the Driver's License as a reward for earning
the Eagle Scout much of these items are lost.
Self-Motivation is a needed skill in this competitive world, I
think we can all agree on that one. By attatching the Eagle Scout
Rank to the Driver's Licence, this self-motivation is greatly reduced.
Remember, parents aren't going to be there to say "If you want to go
to the Company Picnic this weekend, you have to make sure the lawn is
mowed and the garbage taken out." Now, I realize that earning Eagle and
driving are much more important than a picnic and garbage duties, but
the analogy still applies. Rank advancement is an extremely personal
item; keep it that way.
On the point of reward for personal accomplishment, the Eagle
itself is the reward. The feeling of pride and satisfaction that goes
with wearing that red, white, and blue patch is the ultimate reward.
Don't belittle this by makeing physical or external rewards the actual
goal. Let the youth experience the "high" of personal achievement.
Maybe they will continue to do things for other than tangible rewards
in the future. How about that?!
I personally did not earn my Eagle, and I do have some regrets about
that fact, yet I also realize that because of this choice I did accomplish
other important goals. Let Scouts choose their own path, and ultimately
their own rewards, I think you'll be suprised at what they achieve. We
may end up with less Eagle, but the ones we DO end up with will be the
In the Spirit of Scouting,
Douglas J. "Lefty" Coffman
P.S. Opposing opinions given equal time. :)
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City