Mon, 29 Oct 1990 23:10:00 MST
I tend to differ with the idea of withholding the driver's license, until
the youth receives his Eagle Scout award. Although the concept behind this
can be taken too far (no advancement, no food would be an example), I see
nothing wrong with parents telling their son or daughter, if you want to
get a driver's license, you need to get a 'B' average in school. If you
want to get a driver's license, you must complete your Eagle Scout Award
first. Before you jump all over me for this, think about it.
When the person is 18 years old, the person can get a driver's license with
or without their parents permission. So all the parent is doing is causing
a possible two year delay in this case. A delay the parent is entitle to.
Consider, INSURANCE COSTS. When I was living in Los Angeles, my
oldest son went without a driver's license for an entire year until we
moved to Arizone for this reason alone. I simply could not afford it.
Driving is a privilage, not a right and that goes for adults as well as
youths. It could be that this parent has decided that earning the Eagle
Scout Rank is a good way for their son to prove he is grown up enough and
responsible enough for driving. If the youth does not want to earn the
Eagle Award then he should approach his parents with an alternative way to
demonstrate he is ready to drive.
Consider the real world which we are trying to get these youths adjusted
to. In may work places, if you do not produce, you may find yourself
without a job or at a minimum, no pay increases. I feel that the parents
have a right to use something as expensive as a driver's license as a
reward for finishing a job. (Please note that my feelings about the Eagle
Scout award which I earned as a youth can be summed up as saying, doing the
work to earn the Eagle Scout award is easy. The hard part, when it comes to
earning the Eagle Scout Award, is SITTING DOWN AND DOING THE WORK and not
stopping until you are done.)
As for my boys, I restricted one's driving privilages when his grades
dropped way down and told him if he didn't want to wait a whole semester to
see if his grades came back up in order to get his full driving privliages
back, he could finish his Ealge. He got real busy on his Eagle project
right away. Once your children have reached the age of about 16, the only
control you can exercise over them, is the control you have over use of the
family car. It is a great motivator. (I am joking a bit here, but
controling driving privilages does seem to give parents a lot of
My other boy may finish his Eagle soon. If he does or does not, that will
be up to him. Since he has a 3.4 grade point average in school, to me his
Eagle Scout award will be a plus. He seems motivated enough on his own
such that I do not have to push him. If that was not the case, you can bet
I would be plotting a way to motivate him to finish up.
Which sort of leads me up to a conclusion on my part. If the youth needs
motivation, I see nothing wrong with trying to find a way to motivate that
youth. Being self employed, I have to motivate myself sometime to work.
I do that by rewarding myself with the money that comes in to pay the
What I could see as wrong, is trying to motivate the youth with something
which could be harmful to his or her health. I feel positive rewards for a
good job is good. If there is nothing coming out of the youth which is
positive, letting them have all kinds of privilages and giving them
everything they want does not seem to be too logical to me. If he always
gets everything without working for it in one way or another, we may find
ourselves with another welfare case.
That's what I think about this idea. What does everyone else think? Don't
let me just get away with this!
Terry Howerton Sakima Group, Inc. SCOUTER Magazine Kansas City